By Ravi Subramanian, Author, ‘The Incredible Banker ‘

It was sometime in 2001 that I got promoted from assistant VP to vice president . At that time, I was managing the mortgage business in North India for a leading foreign bank. Even after my promotion, I continued doing the same role – only the title changed. All my earlier promotions had come with a change in my role and responsibilities.

One of my seniors, who is still with the bank, on one of his visits to Delhi, took me out for dinner to celebrate my move from AVP to VP. Vice presidents were a rare breed those days, so becoming one did call for a celebration. I took the opportunity and decided to voice my concern. “What next? Does the organisation have a plan for me?”

“As in?” “Now that I have been promoted, will I continue doing the mortgage role for another two years or is there any plan to move me to some other role?” He smiled. I guess my anxiety was obvious . “Do you know Ravi, who all love you?” I had a blank reaction to this question .

“Remember” , he continued, “Your family and parents are the only ones who love you. They will do things selflessly for you. Not only that, they will always have your best interests in mind. Everyone else will only do what suits them.” “But what’s the relevance?” I was a bit confused.

“If you think anyone is managing your career for you, you are mistaken. Others will only do what fits in their scheme of things and not necessarily what is good for you. Very few people will put your interests before themselves.” I didn’t take long to understand what he was saying. The cold, hard truth is, one has to look after oneself. No one else will. This is the reality of corporate life. Bosses, human resources teams, mentors and godfathers, among others, will come and tell you they are really looking out for your rocking future.

Don’t get fooled. They will only take you where they want to lead you. They will channelise your career in a direction that suits them – and not necessarily you. Your career is up to you… and you alone. “Be clear in your mind as to where you want to go, what you want to do, what you want to achieve, what kind of experience you need to specifically get to reach your goal, and what your broad career aspirations are. And articulate it to the right people. If you want a specific experience, ask for it.

Better still, if you can, go grab it,” says Rahul Bhimani, a human resources expert with a consulting firm. Deven Sharma, who heads HR for a large MNC, is even more candid. “Don’t expect that you will be promoted because you deserve it – it is unlikely that anyone is keeping track.”

Generally, things don’t come to people who do not ask for them. You give yourself a better chance to be in the reckoning if you stake claim for anything that you think should be rightfully yours. This, though, does not mean you should be combative, aggressive, rude or disrespectful. It just means do not be naive when it comes to managing your career.

That brief conversation with a senior left me with an everlasting imprint. In spite of what anyone says, you are on your own. In the battlefield that many refer to as the workplace, you need to take charge. If you need to progress, to do well in your career, to be recognised as a good leader of men and resources, you need to stand up and demand what you want. You may not always end up being successful . Just remember one thing: If you ask for anything, you give yourself a better chance of getting it. Career is no different.

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“While being happy and having a smile on his lips, Gabriel come down from heaven to the Holy Prophet (SAW) bringing the following Dua saying: God has sent a gift for you.  The Holy Prophet said: What is the gift O Gabriel! Gabriel said: Words along with treasures of heaven by which God has honoured you.  The Holy Prophet said: What are those words O Gabriel?! Gabriel said: Say:

O You who reveal beauty and conceal ugly things!

O You who do not take a wrongdoer to task and not tear the veil!

O You who are Great Forever!

O You who have the great forbearance!

O You who have pardon abounding!

O You who have opened Your hands for mercy!

O Hearer of all whisperings!

O You to whom all complaints are made!

O Noble face!

O Possessor of great favor!

O You who give blessings to Your servants when they do not deserve it!

O our Master!

O our Lord!

O our Guardian!

O the Goal of our desires!

I beseech You O God! not to make my being ugly with Fire.”

ya man adh’haral jameel wa sataral qabeeh ya man lam yu’aakhidh bil jareerati wa lam yahtikis sitr ya adheemal ‘afwi, ya hasanat tajawuz ya waasi’al maghfirati, ya baasital yadayni bir rahmah ya saahiba kulli najwaa, ya muntaha kulli shakwaa ya kareemas safhi, ya ‘adheemal manni ya mubtadi’an bin ni’ami qablas tihqaaqihaa ya sayyidanaa, ya rabbanaa, ya maulaanaa ya ghaayata raghbatinaa, as’aluka ya Allahu an laa tushawwih khalqee bin naar

Here the Holy Prophet (SAW) said to Gabriel: What is the virtue of these words?  Gabriel said: Far away! Far away! It is something impossible, for if the angels of seven heavens and seven earths gather to describe its virtues till the Day of Judgment, they are not able to describe a single part of it.”

“Therefore when a man says: O You who reveal the beauty and conceal the ugly, God covers up his defects and has mercy on him and makes him look beautiful on the Day of Judgment and covers his defects with a thousand veils in the world and the hereafter.”

“And when he says: O You who do not take the wrongdoer to task and do not tear the veil, God will not take him to task on the Day of Judgment and on the day all veils are torn, God will not tear his veil.”

“And when he says: O You who are Great Forgiver, God will forgive his sins even if they are as much as the sea foam.”

“And when he says: O You are of great forbearance, God will forgive him such sins as theft, drinking wine, and other sins.”

“And when he says: O You who have pardon abounding, God will open seventy gates of Mercy to him in a way that he will be overwhelmed by God’s Mercy till he dies.”

“And when he says: O You who have opened Your hands for mercy, God opens His hands of Mercy to him.”

“And when he says: O Hearer of all whisperings, O You to whom all complaints are made, God will give him rewards as many as given to every afflicted and unaffiliated, every losing and sick as well as destitute and every one affected by calamity till the Day of Judgment.”

“And when he says:  O Possessor of great favor, God will make him noble as prophets.”

“And when he says: O You who give blessings to Your servants when they do not deserve it, God will grant him rewards as many as the number of those who have thanked His blessings.”

“And when he says: O our Master, O our Lord, God will say: My angels! Be witness that I forgave him and I will give him rewards as many as those being in paradise and Hell, the seven heavens and the earths, the sun, the moon, the stars, drops of rain, sands mountains, dews and throne.”

“And when he says: O our Guardian, God will make his heart replete with faith.”

“And when he says: O the Goal of our desires, God will give him the love of all creatures on the Day of Judgment.”

“And when he says: I beseech You O God not to make my being ugly with Fire, God will say: My servant has asked Me to free him from Fire.  O My angels! Be witness that I set him, his parents, his brothers, his household, his children and his neighbors free from the Fire and accepted his intercession for a thousand others who deserved the punishment by fire and saved them from it.”

“O Muhammad! Teach this Dua only to men of piety.  Do not even teach it to hypocrites, for it is a Dua which God will answer.  This is the Dua recited by the men of Beite Ma’moor (an edifice in the fourth or seventh heaven as sacred as Ka’aba) when they circumambulate it.”

A person given to anger behaves unreasonably like a lunatic without rationally consider­ing the outcome of his actions. He commits ugly and indecent acts and his tongue, limbs, and body go out of his control.

Anger may lead one to use abusive language against the prophets of God and His awliya’. It may lead one to desecrate sancti­ties and utter slanders about venerable persons, murder a pious or innocent soul, wreck the lives of creatures of God, destroy a family, or reveal the secrets of others tearing up the veils that cover them. There is no limit to such cruel and oppressive acts that a person can commit at the time of outbreak of faith‑consuming fire of anger that can destroy many homes indeed an entire society.

As to the moral hazards, anger may cause malice towards creatures of God, leading sometimes even to the enmity not only of prophets and awliya’, but also of the Holy Essence of God, the Nourisher. It may also give rise to other vices, such as hasad (envy), hidden enmity and uncontrolled and unjust revenge.

The similitude of anger in this world is the fire of Divine Wrath in the hereafter. In the same way that anger emanates from the heart, perhaps spiritual reality of this anger is the fire of Divine Wrath that also emanates from the inner depths of the heart and spread over the external being, and whose tormenting flames emerge from external organs such as the eyes, the ears, and the tongue.

Anger that becomes a permanent part of one’s nature, it is more catastrophic. It deadens ones heart, renders it merciless and affects the faculty of wisdom. The form that such a state shall acquire in the barzakh and on the Day of Resurrection will be a beastly form that has no match in this world; for the brutality of the person in this state cannot be compared with any of the ferocious beasts.

It is reported from Imam al‑Baqir (a): “It is recorded in the Torah regarding which God Almighty confided to Moses (a), saying: “O Moses, control your anger towards those over whom I have given you authority, so that I may spare you from My Wrath.” [Al‑Kulayni, al‑Kafi, vol. 2, p. 302, hadith # 7]

Imam Ali (a) said: “Protect yourself from anger for its beginning is insanity and its end is remorse.” [Al-Amidi, Gharar ul-Hikam wa darar ul-Kalim, hadith # 2635]

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A few years ago, at the behest of my mother, I attended a Muslim marriage event in Glasgow. These are events where Muslim men and women meet for the purpose of seeking an ideal marriage partner.

At the event, there were around five women to every man. Well-turned-out women sat around dejected, twiddling their thumbs, waiting to speak to the select few.

Sadly, it’s not an isolated example. Up and down the country, hundreds of women in their 30s and 40s within the Asian Muslim community are struggling to find a marriage partner.

Nearly all Muslim singles events are female-dominated, unless organisers artificially construct a level playing field by selling equal numbers of male and female tickets.

In the latter case, there’s always a stampede for female tickets. December’s Canary Wharf Professionals Muslim marriage event saw the female ticket quota sell out three weeks before, whereas the male ticket quota only sold out days before.

Moreover, the average age of women at such events is typically higher than men. Rooful Ali, founder of Emerald Muslim events, believes that the average age of women attending tends to be early 30s, while for men it is late 20s.

Such occurrences are symptomatic of the growing Muslim spinster crisis, which has been brewing for some time and is rooted in cultural, rather than religious, trends.

First, there has always been a tradition for British men originating from the Indian subcontinent to marry women from their country of origin. Families encourage their sons to do so for a host of reasons, including the cultural expectation that girls from “back home” will stay with and look after their in-laws.

The second trend is for Muslim men to marry “women of the book” (Christian or Jewish women), which is permissible in Islam. Men are more likely to work and socialise with British Christian women than their female Muslim counterparts, which leads to a higher chance of such marriages occurring.

Both trends lead to a shortfall of available Muslim men.

For Muslim women, marrying men from their country of origin is rarely considered an option as they tend to want social, economic and intellectual equals or superiors. Men from their country of origin tend to have different mindsets and struggle to find jobs no matter how well qualified they are, thereby leaving women as the main breadwinners. This situation can often create a strenuous dynamic in relationships with men from patriarchal cultures.

Muslim women, unlike men, are restricted as to whom they can marry. Marrying men outside the faith is only considered permissible in most communities if the men convert.

Moreover, in line with national trends, Muslim women academically outperform the men. According to the Equality and Human Rights Commission’s How Fair is Britain? report, Bangladeshi and Pakistani women are more likely to be employed as professionals than their male counterparts. This means that professional Muslim women have an even smaller pool of intellectual and economic equals to choose from.

This is exacerbated by the fact that Asian men are likely to choose partners of lower economic and intellectual status as they traditionally grow up with working fathers and stay-at-home mothers, and generally choose to replicate this model.

Unfortunately, these imbalances are not widely acknowledged – many label older unmarried women as fussy. The effect on women is crippling. Many become depressed as a huge amount of importance is attached to marriage, and unmarried women are made to feel that they’ve failed.

Any real solution would require a complete cultural shift in mindset by parents, community leaders and imams. This will need geographically, socially and economically fractured communities to work together to achieve change – no easy feat. Until they do so, many women who want to marry men of the same faith will continue to struggle.

Janabe Umme Salma was widowed in Madina & in difficulty when she requested the Prophet (pbuh) for a dua.The prophet asked her to recite this Dua As a consequence she became the wife of the Best human being on earth! Also when there was NO hope of earning respect & a decent living recite this dua. “Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raje oon .Allahummajalni farajawn wa makhrajan war zuqni khaira min haiso ahtasibo wa min haiso la ahtasib , be haqqe Mohammadin wa ale mohammad” —– Translation: Verily to Allah do we belong and to Him is our return. O Allah` Grant me ease and grant me a better one from where I can imagine and where I cannot even imagine, through the right of Muhammad (S) and the family of Muhammad (S).’

Hazrat Imam Hussein (AS)’s quotes: O my followers! Whenever you drink refreshing water remember me Or whenever you heard about a martyred or a lonely person, weep for me I am the son of the Prophet who was martyred cruelly, And then smashed me intentionally under the hoofs of their horses. I wish you all were present in Ashoora and saw how I asked them for water for my infant, but they refused to give.

Ø The Holy Prophet [s] said: “At the (appointed) time of every prayer (salat), I hear a caller who calls and says: “O children of Adam! Keep up prayers in order to extinguish the fire you have lit against yourselves (by committing sins).” (BUNDLE OF FLOWERS)

Ø Imam as-Sadiq (a) said: Sleep is the rest of the body, speaking is the rest of the soul, and silence is the rest of the mind. ( al-mawaiz)


Ø The Holy Prophet [s] said: “When charity (alms) is delivered out of the hand of its owner, it (the thing being given) says five things: ‘At first I was perishing and you gave me life; I was insignificant and you made me great; I was an enemy and you turned me into a friend; you used to protect me then but now I will protect you up to the Day of Resurrection’.” (BUNDLE OF FLOWERS)

 

Ø Once Jibrail (a.s.)  came to Prophet (s.a.w.) said: Allah has given me the knowledge to count every leaf on earth, every fish in the sea, every star in the sky and every particle of sand on earth, but there’s only one thing i cant count. Prophet (s.a.w.) asked Jibrail {A.S.}: what is it? Jibrail {A.S.} replied……… When one of your Ummati recited Durood o Salaams to you the blessings Allah showers upon him becomes impossible for me to count. SUBHAN ALLAH. Request you to read Durood at least once now and send this to all the Muslims you know…. “Lo! Allah and His angels shower blessings on the Prophet. O ye who believe! Ask blessings on him and salute him with a worthy salutation.” (33:56)

The Holy Prophet [s] said: “The Quran is Allah’s university; so, learn as much as you can in this university.” (BUNDLE OF FLOWERS)

Duniya Ke Ay Musafir Manzil Tere Qabar Hei

“Wherever you are, death will find you . Even if you are in a tower built up strong and high” – Holy Quran 4:78

“Every soul will tast death…” – Holy Quran 3:185

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Contents:

Important Note

Copyright

The Author’s Note

Chapter 1: An Ode’s to Man’s Inspiration

Chapter 2: Sleeping with Ignorance

Chapter 3: A Perfect Reflection of Perfection

Chapter 4: The Hardest Times

Chapter 5: Power of Pain in Action

Chapter 6: The Zenith of Humanity

Chapter 7: A Salute for the Essential She

Readers’ Comments

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